Thursday, January 23, 2020

45 profound life lessons you’ll wish you’d learned years ago

Learning never stops though willingness to learn is an oddity not many of us possess. It is a skill that is honed by time and experience. Are you consciously learning from experiences or are you just collecting reference data in the brain to refer to in the same kind of situation in future?

Regina Brett, two times winner of the Pulitzer Prize, became well known for publishing the following ideas.
Regina’s lived through a lot during her lifetime. These life lessons were written by a woman who raised a child for eighteen years, overcame breast cancer at 41, and finally found true love at 45. By anyone’s measure, she’s achieved great success and an impressive career.

It’s not surprising to learn, therefore, that there’s a lot of wisdom in her thoughts. Take a look.
The 45 lessons life taught me:
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

10. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

11. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

12. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

14. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; that’s the way life is and you can’t change it.

15. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

16. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

17. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

18. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

19. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

20. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

21. Overprepare, then go with the flow.

22. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age.

23. The most important sex organ is the brain.

24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

25. Forgive everyone everything.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ’In five years, will this matter?’

27. What other people think of you is none of your business.

28. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

30. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

31. Believe in miracles.

32. Your loved ones love you because of who you are, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

33. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

34. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

35. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

36. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

37. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

38. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

39. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

40. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Source cleveland

Tuesday, January 21, 2020

10 Signs That You’re Way More Intelligent Than You Realize

Someone intelligent understands things and people and communicates well. And he has simply more brain power. Do you doubt your own intelligence? Here are 10 indications that you’re mistaken. The chances are you’ll recognize at least 2 of these things in yourself straightaway.

1.  Your writing is messy

Creative disorder is a concept that was established long ago, and there is even research that claims that it serves as a kind of "fuel" for those with a creative nature. Messy handwriting is also one of the signs of a creative person.

2. You’re a real night owl

It sounds funny, but it turns out that people who love to stay up at night generally have a greater intellect than early birds. The ability to work and be creative at night, as is well known, was not given to us by nature. It’s for this reason that scientists reached the conclusion that intelligent people go to bed later because they’re striving to expand the limits of their abilities. If only we could survive on such little sleep!

3. You’re left-handed

There is some data to suggest that there’s a large number of left-handed people among criminals. Experts have yet to explain this phenomenon. On the other hand, the latest research indicates that left-handed people are inclined to divergent thinking — a way of creative thinking that is employed in order to solve problems and tasks. Left-handed people are often more inventive and know how to get out of difficult situations better. Is that not a sign of great intellect?

4. You often worry

More and more studies are proving that people who often worry about things might be more intelligent than those who don’t. It may be the case that this is a result of the fact that they’re always thinking about the possible consequences of their actions and therefore try to make sure everything turns out as best as possible.

5. You can be funny

It turns out that a sense of humor and high intelligence are connected. In one piece of research, around 400 students took an intelligence test, after which they had to think up amusing captions for scenes from cartoons. Can you guess whose captions turned out to be funnier?

6. You’re curious

A professor of business psychology at one London university came to the conclusion that curiosity is an important characteristic in intelligent people. Curious people possess a more refined form of thinking, and in the long-term they are interested in discovering new things and developing as people.

7. You strive for perfection

People who are smart are usually perfectionists. They’re never truly satisfied with the way things are. If they play a sport, they’ll spend extra time practicing to be the best player on the team. And if they are unhappy with their appearance, they’ll go the extra mile to look their best by buying a new wardrobe or stepping up their grooming habits. Their life is a constant work in progress.

8. You loved reading even as a child

Do you have memories of reading going back to your earliest days? The chances are you’re very smart, especially if your love for books started when you were still in diapers. During the course of one piece of research, 2,000 pairs of twins were studied, and it turned out that those infants who learned to read earlier scored higher in tests later in life. The study’s authors believe that reading from an early age improves a person’s verbal as well as non-verbal abilities.

9. You took music lessons

Numerous studies show that learning to play a musical instrument helps childhood development. One of these studies claims that just one month of music lessons can help 4- to 6-year-olds significantly improve their test scores and makes studying easier for them. So did you play the violin when you were a kid? Maybe that’s the reason you’re so good at thinking things through today!

10. You’re the oldest sibling in the family

One interesting piece of research has suggested that the older siblings in a family have moderately higher but significant advantages when it comes to IQ compared to their younger brothers and sisters. This is the reason why the oldest tend to be slightly more successful than the youngest in a family.

Illustrated by Yekaterina Ragozina

Monday, January 20, 2020

27 Masters of Problem Solving Who Deserve a Round of Applause

Everybody, sooner or later, has a problem that seems to be insurmountable and devastating. In fact, who has never had a problem? Who has never been overwhelmed, depressed, anguished or lost his sleep over a given situation? Nobody. There are no problems you can’t solve. 

We were really dazzled with some of these creative geniuses and we’re pretty sure that there isn’t a problem these people can’t fix. Don’t believe us? Just take a look at the photos below.

1. A true friend can always help you.

2. “Well, at least I can sunbathe.”

3. When it’s hot and you don’t have a pool:

4. “Went moto-camping but forgot the tent pegs and poles, so we had to improvise.”

5. “We didn’t want to set up the second half of the tree. So we got creative.”

6. “My friend wasn’t able to reach the higher roofline, so he decided the Grinch needed to ‘steal’ the lights.”

7. When you only have 3 players and there’s a 4-player minimum, you improvise.

8. “My dog Philby has to take allergy meds every day, but he doesn’t need to know that.”

9. “I was not designed for this world.”

10. “My sister took advantage of my dog’s condition.”

11. Use the rain to your advantage.

12. “My orthodontist told me I’d have my braces on for Halloween. Thought I might as well take advantage of it...”

13. When you can’t have a real Christmas tree but you still want one:

14. When the teacher says you can bring one handwritten 3×5 notecard for the test:

15. When your heel broke but you have an extra pair of shoes at work:

16. Just keep in mind that if you pull the sword from shifter, you won’t become the new King of England... unfortunately.

17. How artists deal with scrapes:

18. An apple a day keeps the tent from flying away.

19. Moms really do have the answer for everything.

20. If it works, it isn’t stupid.

21. When you’re trying to reach your deadline at work:

22. No plate? No problem.

23. Lazy or brilliant parenting skills?

24. Art can be found in any form.

25. That’s one way to charge your phone.

26. The morning after you drunkenly visit a Taco Bell...

27. Fixed it... kinda.

Were you impressed with the ingenuity behind these problem-solving gems? Which of these solutions do you find to be the most remarkable?

Sunday, January 19, 2020

10 Terrible Body Language Habits That Everyone Needs to Kick

We don’t always notice what we’re doing with our legs, our hands, or our facial expression while other people are around us. It might not even cross our mind that those things are important. But body language can actually say a lot about your personality and feelings. And it might just help you make a good impression and get the job of your dreams, or, on the contrary, make people want to avoid you.

We think that there are certain body language habits you need to unlearn, which might have a positive effect on your life. Let’s see what those habits are!

1. Fidgeting

Whether this is a habit that you have at all times, or just something you do in stressful situations to comfort yourself, you should try to stop fidgeting. If you twirl your hair, touch your rings, tap your fingers and feet, or constantly check your watch during a conversation or an important meeting, it might look like you`re bored and like you`d rather be somewhere else.

2. Slouching

Your posture can say a lot about your level of self-confidence. If you’re slouching, it will show that you’re feeling insecure. If you don’t fix your posture, slouching might become a habit and you will do it even if you aren’t in a situation that makes you feel uneasy. And people might still see it as a sign of low self-esteem.

3. Crossing your legs or arms

It’s natural for a lot of people to cross their arms and legs when they sit. However, if you’re speaking to someone, this might make you look defensive. It could send a message that you`re not open to interacting with another person or hearing what they have to say, or that you feel uncomfortable in their presence. If you keep your arms and legs uncrossed and your hands visible, you will appear more trustworthy.

4. Rubbing your neck

Rubbing your neck might be something you do to relieve stress. Or maybe you just do it to relieve tension in that area, even if there`s nothing making you anxious. In any case, be aware of what you do with your hands and try to avoid doing this as much as possible. Otherwise it can reveal your anxiety and discomfort to other people.

5. Biting your fingernails

Another habit that shows to other people that you’re nervous is nail biting. It might help you relieve stress, but it will also give away how you feel. Apart from that, it can be distracting to the person you`re speaking to, and they might even find it repulsive. Lastly, it will damage the state of your nails. And since people judge you by your appearance, you could leave a bad impression.

6. Not enough or too much eye contact

Avoiding eye-contact can show that you lack confidence or that you don`t like someone, and you might even appear untrustworthy. On the other hand, staring intensely right into the other person`s eyes can appear aggressive and make them feel uncomfortable. Instead, go for a series of long glances.

7. Appearing distracted

While actually being distracted when someone is talking is just rude, sometimes you don`t even realize that you`re doing it. Or even though you`re paying attention, you`re staring into space, and others might think you aren`t listening. Try to show that you`re actively listening by looking at the person who`s saying something to you, or doing something to make them clearly see that you respect them and that you`re engaged in the conversation.

8. Rolling your eyes

Rolling your eyes is an obvious sign of disrespect. It can be relatively harmless and an act of non-verbal communication with one of your friends to show that you`re bored or annoyed. However, if it`s something your colleague, your boss, or a complete stranger said that you`re reacting too, your facial expression can appear off-putting and offensive to them.

9. Forgetting to smile

Smiling is something we often forget to do, especially in formal situations. But it`s a great way to show confidence and openness. And it can also make other people smile back and feel more positive and open to you in general. However, don’t fake-smile, because then you risk being seen as insincere and untrustworthy.

10. Being too calm and still

Being too calm and still can make it seem like you`re not interested in talking to another person and hearing what they have to say. Your stiffness can also make them feel uneasy. Try to show genuine enthusiasm with your facial expressions and try to mirror the other person`s gestures without being too obvious. This can help you make a more positive impression.
Have you noticed any of these body language habits in yourself or in anyone else? What impression do people who do these things usually leave on you?

based on material from brightside.

Saturday, January 18, 2020

4 Signs That You Are Actually Genius

The image of a tortured artist plagued by their own thoughts, trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and anguish before ultimately creating a masterpiece the whole world admires is a stereotype we are all instantly familiar with.

It might seem like an incredible exaggeration, and certainly this caricature has been over-used in popular culture, but as it turns out it might not be that far-fetched after all. Recent research suggests that the link between creative genius and anxiety is closer than you might think.

1. Worried you might be a creative genius? Then you probably are.
Whilst we all have things that worry us sometimes, some of us fret over and wallow in our concerns more than most. If you are the type of person who regularly overthinks a problem, or if you often experience anxiety-related behavior, the good news is that you probably also possess an elevated capacity for creativity.

2. Now for the (genuinely fascinating) science part.
Researchers at King’s College London found that worriers had a higher level of activity in the part of the brain that controls our perception of threat, meaning that they jumped into panic mode quicker than most.
Because of these key neurological differences, the worriers also had exceptionally active imaginations, which only exacerbates these feelings of threat.
In essence, overactive imaginations (an essential trait for creative geniuses) and intense worrying behaviors are not only inextricably linked, but also fuel each other in a never-ending creative cycle of torment and ingenuity.
[worry + imagination = creative genius]

3. Where would the world be without worriers?
When you think about it, it makes perfect sense: of course one cannot find a solution without first examining the problem at length. The very process of putting ourselves inside a problem is absolutely necessary to give that lightning bolt moment a chance to strike.
Without people worrying about how to get around more quickly the wheel might never have been invented; if Alexander Fleming had not worried about bacterial infections we might still be living in a world without antibiotics; were it not for concerns about unplanned pregnancies the contraceptive pill might still be a twinkle in its inventor’s eye.

4. More importantly, where would the world be without art?
Sure, we have a lot to thank over-worriers for in terms of inventions and scientific progress. But we also have their vivid imaginations to thank for a society rich in the cultural delights of poetry, music, art, and theatre — without which our human experience would be a poorer one.
So overthinkers take heart! Next time you are in the full throes of worrying about something, remember that it also has its creative benefits, and who knows, one day your worrying could change the world.