Wednesday, January 8, 2020

10 Mental Traps That Insensibly Control Our Lives

Trap is a strong word and unconsciously a person sets himself up to get stuck by reinforcing his belief system using such language. Kindly be mindful to use a language that an eight year old child uses to describe a situation. The small child within each of us needs a psychological permission to make mistakes, to learn and to grow. Trap - the word might be limiting that small child.


The first step to move forward is to re align our language. Give yourself that kind and nurturing permission. You can write the thoughts that are helping you and also the thoughts that are limiting you. Becoming aware will help you to identify your strengths.
There are 10 Mental Traps That Insensibly Control Our Lives.

1. The “superiority over others” trap.


During one experiment, people who drive a car were invited to compare their driving skills to other drivers’ skills. Almost all of the experiment’s participants thought their skills were “above average.” In most cases, people have a high opinion of their skills. They overestimate their abilities and skill level, which is why they can’t rate themselves objectively.


2. The Peltzman Effect.

The idea of this effect is that an abundance of different protective devices and safety instructions leads to the feeling that a person is invincible — and the risk of an accident increases. For example, if we take away a motorcyclist’s helmet or another piece of equipment, they’ll ride much more safely than if they were fully equipped.

3. Our brain thinks that we are different people in the future.

Different studies show that when we start thinking about ourselves in the future, the parts of our brain that work when we think about different people become active. In other words, if we’re asked to think about ourselves in the future, we imagine a stranger who has almost nothing in common with our present self.

4. The majority can’t be wrong.

People are inclined to believe something if they know that someone else already believes it. That’s how generally accepted rules that are treated as normal inside a group appear. A person’s tendency to accept a group’s opinion is the reason why we should treat statistical data critically.


5. Excessive generalization.


If you think that one thing that turned out to be true once will be true again on another occasion, you’ve fallen into a trap. If a random cashier cheated you, it doesn’t mean that each cashier is going to shortchange you.

6. We remember only our best traits and actions.

People will be people. Almost every person remembers only their best features. Sometimes we even have a tendency to exaggerate, but we don’t notice it. Daniel Kahneman, a Nobel Prize winner, said, “It’s surprising how rarely people change their opinion. What is more, when they do that, they don’t even understand that. Changing their opinion, many people correct their previous mindset by trying to persuade themselves that they’ve always thought that way.”

7. There is always more bad news.

People tend to notice bad news, and it’s not a sort of deviation. Scientists think that we subconsciously treat bad news as more important. Moreover, bad news causes more trust: it may happen because the good news seems to be too suspicious and not so interesting.

8. The “positive expectation” trap.

Such a trap is common among people who like to gamble: they’re sure that after a series of fails, their good luck will appear, and the next game’s going to bring a great prize. Misconceptions about lucky streaks work in the same way.

9. Trusting only “your” people.

Since ancient times, we wittingly or unwittingly divide people into groups. We trust the people who are in “our” group more: friends and colleagues, for example. And we trust the people who are outside of this group less, treating them with caution and suspicion. This phenomenon is called “in-group favoritism”: people overstate “their” group’s value and its members’ abilities and underestimate those they don’t know well.

10. Dual standards.

We often try to explain other people’s behavior with the help of such arguments as life troubles and problems. But when we justify our mistakes, we use circumstances that don’t depend on us. Such mistakes sometimes make us think that we all have similar lives, and that’s why it’s easy to blame the people around us.

How can you avoid such traps? Try to reduce the influence of stereotypes, and never confuse your own feelings with what the world tries to impose. How do you try to cope with such mental tricks?